The wicked stepmother in story of Cinderella would stand before her mirror each day and ask it the rhetorical question, "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?" She was flabbergasted one day when the mirror did not respond with an answer she deemed appropriate.
As I reflect on the wicked stepmother, I wonder if I really want the spiritual reflector I use in my own life to speak to me honestly, or just state what I want it to say. If I want the answer that reinforces my opinion of myself, I want my spiritual mirror to say, "You may not be perfect Bob, but look at so many other people. You are way better than they are." I find that sometimes, I need to be shocked. I need an honest reflection and an honest answer of what I truly look like and not what I want it to say.
I read Thom Rainer's blog this week, and found that Dr. Rainer has some "mirror, mirror" questions on it. These are questions that any Christian leader should ask themselves before they ask these questions to someone else. Dr. Rainer's 10 questions are listed below.
- Do I read and study my Bible daily so I can know what the Word says about a Great Commission lifestyle?
- Do I pray each day that God will lead me to a Great Commission lifestyle?
- Do I need to reconcile with someone so that God can truly use me in the fulfillment of the Great Commission?
- Am I willing to change my lifestyle materially so I might give more and be less dependent on the things of the world?
- Do I really show concern for the poor and hurting in this world and in my community?
- Would my family testify honestly that I lead a Great Commission lifestyle with them?
- Do I have a gentle and loving spirit that reflects the presence of the Holy Spirit in my life?
- Do I major on minors?
- Do I see the speck in others