Today’s post is from Kelly King, women’s ministry and missions specialist at the Baptist General Convention of Oklahoma. Kelly is super-talented and has a heart for women’s ministry and missions. As many of you know, our primary strategy of resourcing our churches at the BGCO is called ReConnect Sunday School. Kelly shares five important reasons for women to be involved in Sunday School/small groups. By the way, you can follow Kelly on twitter @kellydking. Kelly also blogs at www.echohisheart.com.
I think many of us have been in the place I am about to describe. If it hasn’t happened for you yet, it probably will. I found myself in a new church. No friends. No acquaintances. No knowledge of how to find my way around the building. In other words, lonely. Unlike a lot of people who choose churches based on preaching, worship styles or programs offered; a lot of my decision was going to be based on the Sunday School class I attended. Why? Basically, I knew it was the place I would find friendships. It was the place I would grow more deeply in my walk with the Lord. Sunday School was a place where I knew that I could connect.
I believe that Sunday School or small groups is the place for women to connect. Events and fellowships are important, but I believe women need small group relationships. Here are five reasons why I encourage the women I lead in ministry to be involved in a small group:
Although both men and women need to connect in relationship with others, women tend to build relationships verbally with other women. It’s how we express ourselves. While men may feel the need to accomplish projects, women have the need to build relationships. Small groups for women allow the opportunity for other women to connect. If there is one complaint I hear from women who are dissatisfied with their church, it is wrapped up in this one statement, “I just don’t feel connected.” A small group can change that.
There’s something special about building a community of women through a small group. Not only do they feel more connected to the body of Christ, but they find relationships where they can serve together, cry together and minister in times of need. Who is there when a crisis occurs? Who is there when you need someone to pray you through dark days? When community exists, ministry happens.
Developing a women’s small group in your church is not the same as joining a sorority or community organization. While fellowship and serving are important facets of a solid group, the most important thing is to devote a majority of time digging into God’s word and learning from His words—not our own. I’ve been in groups where we studied a book of the Bible or worked through a guided study. Whatever method you choose, make God’s word the priority.
The best small groups for women are built over time. Time gives you the ability to speak into each other’s life. In mature small groups, you will find time to challenge one another in a deeper, more meaningful way. Whether it’s scripture memory or
confronting sin, we all need women who feel comfortable speaking into our lives.
This may seem like a very non-spiritual reason for women to be in a small group. But, women need to laugh with each other. There are a lot of serious issues we deal with on a daily basis, but if you can build a group where laughter is frequent, you’ll discover what the Bible means when it says that a cheerful heart is good medicine.
I still have a unique bond with that first group of women I connected with in my home church. In fact, we are even planning a reunion next year.
How about you?
How has a Sunday School or small group impacted your life?
What reasons would you add to this list?